Reverse Psychology

The recent days are the days of controversies for the Tollywood. Almost every other film rather almost every film has some or the other controversy. One is related to caste, while other is related to region, yet another to religion. But surprisingly the controversy begins few days ahead of the release of the film and more surprisingly this becomes the talk of the town. This talk among the mass creates more curiosity to know what exactly the controversy is all about. As a result of this, there is mad rush of the fans as well as those curious lot, at the theaters on the first few days of the release of the film. This fetches huge collections and film is considered as super hit.

Though media channels constantly speaking about these types of controversies as free advertisements to the films, in psychology we call it as Reverse Psychology.

Reverse Psychology is a mind bending technique of giving somebody the impression you want a particular outcome, when in fact you want the opposite. It makes you influence others thoughts to make a change without being direct so they maintain the responsibility of making that change. Positively used or negatively used, it is a kind of manipulating someone’s pattern in thought that concludes a predicted change results with the absence of any visible influence to observe. It is also defined as telling a person something that is the opposite of what you want him to do or believe. This is theorized as “people respond in an opposite or reverse direction of what they are told” by German Psychologist Adorno and Horkheimer, which has been tested and proved in late 1970’s.

Reverse Psychology can be used in

1. Relationships: men often complain that women always say the opposite of what they are thinking. Perhaps women are just pre programmed to be reverse psychologists? If you think your partner is constantly saying the opposite of what she feels, may be try using that same concept to your advantage.

2. At work: at work reverse psychology can lead to the corner office, salary increases or even a promotion. This is especially useful if you are in sales of any kind. You can put it to work on your clients and customers. The idea is basically to get your customers interested right away by making them believe that they absolutely need your product or service. That their lives simply are not complete without it. Also, by using this technique to make your customers think that your loss is their gain, or that you have much more to lose than they do, it suddenly seems to them as if you are doing them a favor and makes them much more eager to seal the deal. This technique can boost productivity and sales.

3. As parents: It’s a well-known fact that children are notorious for waiting for you to tell them something and then doing the exact opposite. Nobody knows why, but children thrive on doing the opposite of whatever they know is expected of them; that may very well be a version of reverse psychology in and of itself! So, being the brilliant parent that you are, try putting some reverse psychology of your own to work. By telling your children the opposite of what you want them to do they may (after being slightly confused) do exactly what you want them to. It’s important to keep in mind, however, that children are impressionable little beings. Only use reverse psychology in special circumstances and avoid using it in ways that could harm your child’s comprehension or self-esteem.

So what, and when, is the best way to use reverse psychology on your kids? Let’s take a look:

• Don’t use reverse psychology as a first choice. Use it sparingly if all other methods fail.

• Use a positive form rather than a negative form. Positive: tell your child what she should do, rather than what she shouldn’t do. Negative: tell your child she probably can’t do any better. While this may spur a child to study harder, it’s just as likely that the child will believe you and give up. And that feeling can last a lifetime.

• Offer your child a choice, so he feels independent. For example, if he refuses to take a bath, say, “OK, so if bath time is over, it’s time for bed.”

• Challenge your child instead of issuing orders. For example, say, “I bet I can finish my vegetables before you finish yours.”

• Use a positive reward system. For example, make a “Prize Jar” for each child and put in a coin whenever they do a chore or behave properly. Distribute the prize money regularly (daily, weekly, etc.). Try to avoid competition between siblings.

• Stay calm and avoid reacting emotionally 心理輔導員 when your kids misbehave or are stubborn. Losing your cool sets the stage for a no-win situation.

People against whom Reverse Psychology can be effectively used:

1. Narcissists: Narcissists are the people who actually just think about their own self and do not care about others. In the context of thinking about their own self, they get isolated from the society and the world and their life gets engrossed in an environment where there is just loneliness. They are thus deprived of love, care that actually, they must get and this in turn leads them to lose their confidence. Reverse psychology can be effectively used against these people, this is because, they gets easily agitated and tend to work in an opposite way.

2. The people who are Overconfident: These kinds of people have so much self belief that they think that they are ultimately the best and whatever they do is accurate. They, find it useless to take suggestions and advices from others. Such people are actually intelligent fools and by using the technique of reverse psychology any one might easily use them to their advantage.